Learn More About Spiritual Self Development and May peace and blessings be upon you.
Welcome! I am so glad you are here and excited for the chance to share my work with you.
I am a relationship counselor, parent coach and author. I train and coach modern Muslims who yearn to find peace and happiness in their lives and are looking for fulfillment and connection in their relationships. I give them simple and effective tools to cultivate more love and happiness and decrease negativity in their lives and in their relationships.
I have been speaking and facilitating workshops on relationships and spiritual self development for over a decade. For years, people would write asking for speaking notes, audio recordings and other resources. I finally decided to become intentional about sharing the work by providing a platform for people to access content and resources, and so this blog was born.
My mission is:
- To help modern Muslims connect to God, live intentionally and use the gift of life to its fullest potential
- To support families in finding peace, happiness and love in their relationships with each other
To that end, I write on Self Development, Marriage & Family Relationships, Parenting and Practical Spirituality.
Deeply influenced by spirituality, mindfulness, neuroscience and positive psychology, I am an academic at heart (a perpetual student some would say!). My approach combines ancient wisdom with evidence-based psychology to bring simple, tried and tested tools to help those that I work with and write for.
My goal is to create insightful, relevant and practical content that you can use in your everyday lives. If you have particular topics that you would like to know more about or would like tools to practice concepts in your life, please get in touch! I would love to hear from you.
I also have a podcast called “Loving and Living the Quran”. The show covers similar topics to the blog and also includes episodes discussing specific verses and topics from the Quran. You can get it on iTunes or on your android/desktop computer here.
I am a student (and awe-inspired lover) of the Quran and have found that sharing my learning with others enriches the journey and helps me implement the message in my own life. My approach is to seek the relevance of the Message in modern life and to find simple ways to live it and to share it. To learn more about my personal journey with the Quran, read this post.
If you are someone who wants to live consciously and happily, fulfill your potential and nurture the most important relationships in your life, this blog is for you!
I intend to post once a week, occasionally more. Between the blog, the podcast and Facebook, I do my best to provide fresh content for my readers each week.
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For those of you who want to make sure I know what I am talking about, you can read a bit more about my life journey thus far and my formal bio below.
I grew up in Pakistan in a spiritual and religious family that encouraged questioning, reflection and discussion as opposed to blind ritualistic observance.
Immediately after completing my undergraduate degree in the USA, I got married like a good ‘desi’. I settled back in the US with my husband, started law school and also started a family.
I started my professional career with a graduate degree in Law (LLB) from the University of Toronto, Canada. While I was articling in a large and fancy Bay St. law firm specializing in corporate law, I began to recognize that the practice of corporate Law, as glamorous and financially lucrative as it was, was not a family (or soul) friendly profession. Because I had two children while I was studying law (yes, crazy I know! Did I mention I believe in playing full out?), the realization of what life as a corporate lawyer would mean for my family life was beginning to dawn on me. After completing the study and being called to the bar in Ontario, I made the decision to take some time off to raise my (now) three young children.
Around the same time, we moved to England, and while I took the qualification exams and got on the roll of solicitors in the UK, I decided not to go back to work.
Instead, I spent my time pursuing various self-growth opportunities, including studying Quranic Arabic and going to every personal development seminar and workshop I could find. During this time, a few people close to me decided to end their marriages and I began to wonder about why it appeared to be so difficult to keep relationships strong and happy in modern times. The institutions of marriage and family that were so stable just a generation ago appeared to be crumbling all around me. I was determined to find out why this was the case so that I could help alleviate the sadness and suffering that it brought to families.
This was the beginning of a long journey of questioning, trying to find answers through training, research and self-study and finally moving on to professional training in the field of family relationships. While I initially started training in couples work, I was drawn to parenting programs mostly to help me in my own efforts to raise my children consciously while being far away from larger family support systems. I recognized that in order to do a good job as a parent in modern society with all its challenges, I needed to be intentional about creating a healthy, strong and connected family.
What I read about, learnt and practiced turned out to be so helpful to me in my own relationships and in raising a family that I informally began to share my newfound knowledge with friends and family at every opportunity. The informal sharing led to various public speaking opportunities, and then training in family counselling and psychotherapy. The rest, as they say, is history.
Currently, I travel across North America and beyond to present seminars and facilitate workshops. My work centres around my mission: to strengthen families by focusing on psycho-education, personal development, relationship skills training and mindfulness. I love working with people individually and in groups to share practical, research-based advice that combines spiritual values with intentional action. Some of the workshops that I have conducted recently can be found here.
I serve my clients through a private practice based in Toronto, Ontario. Because of high demand from Muslim and South Asian populations in diverse locations, I also provide online counseling and consultancy to an international client base. You can book an appointment to work with me privately. The details are here.
- University of Toronto, Toronto, Ontario. Masters in Social Work (MSW)
- University of Toronto, Ontario. Bachelor of Laws (LL.B)
- University of Guelph, Ontario. Certificate in Couple and Family Therapy Studies
- Williams College, Williamstown, MA, USA. Bachelor of Arts in Economics and English Literature (BA)
Selected Professional Development and Certifications
- Registered Social Worker (RSW)
- Master Practitioner of NeuroLinguistic Psychology and Hypnotherapy (NLP) Innergize Training, Ontario.
- Gottman Method Couples Therapist and Educator
- Positive Parenting Program (Triple P) Level 5 Practitioner. http://www.triplep.net
- PREP Instructor. (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program). https://www.prepinc.com
- Franklin Covey Facilitator for:
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families
- The 8 Habits of a Successful Marriage
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
- Prepare and Enrich Facilitator (Premarital Counseling). http://www.enrichcanada.ca/
- P.I.C.K a Partner Program Facilitator (Spouse Selection)
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
- Imago Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Solution Focused Counseling
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- MBSR – Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction
- Journey Practitioner (in process)